Editor’s Note
What’s New at CANGRANDS
Member Profile
Article – Laughter is the Best Medicine
Humour and Quotes
Activity: Grandmothers Around the World

A Note from Betty:
Well summer is nearly over and I am thrilled to have Sarah Evans as a student working with us. Sarah is a second year Humber College student in the Social Service Worker Program.
Sarah has developed this awesome newsletter and is looking forward to interviewing some grandparents (any volunteers)?

I have been busier than a momma cat with nine kittens as I returned to work part-time as a peer support for our local Mental Health agency and loving it.
I presented at the Jewish Family Association in Toronto on June 16 to a group of family social workers. They were impressed by my passion and they have connect a few clients with CANGRANDS. Sarah (our Social Service Worker Student) joined me for this experience.

Tammy, Cindi , Alex (Tammy’s Grandson) and Betty

Tammy, Betty and Cindi our new Huntsville chapter leader worked a an information display booth in Huntsville for an event called “Give a Hoot”.

Asheleigh graduated Grade 12 however plans to return for the ‘victory lap’ and will study university law then work a four credit co-op at a local law firm. Ash had her Grade 12 prom and graduation in late June. As well, Ash was named “Most Improved Cadet” for the Sea Cadets. Needless to say grandma and grandpa are proud!
Plus, we continue to have our sweet Taylor ‘often’.
CANGRANDS took part in Angel Tree’s Prison Fellowship International’s Annual Convocation by opening the event by carrying in the world flags. 36 of us got together to be part of this event and enjoyed the opportunity to meet and share over the lovely free supper they provided.

Our 10th annual conference was in July and we had a great line up of speakers and fun times for all, despite the HEAT! See the CANGRANDS website for a listing of our awesome 10th Anniversary Conference speakers. Once again we had been blessed with 4 VIA rail tickets from Toronto to Montreal (value 1200+) and the winners once again are Lynda & Wayne Palmer! Enjoy your trip!

We missed those who did attended this summer. Hopefully everyone who wants a 2012 conference will help find sponsors as I can no longer do that on my own. I am happy to come present to your local churches and service clubs provided we all understand that any money they donate goes to the 2012 CANGRANDS summer camp!

What’s New at Cangrands?
Sarah hosted a picnic in the park for us at Earl Bales Park on August 7 and the rain held off for 95% of the event! We ate far too much wonderful food while sharing tears and laughter…..thanks Sarah!
*Prayers Needed
Prayers are needed for Barb in North Bay who has had knee surgery go badly and is now having more surgery. HUGS to Barb!
A birdie told me Donna Shaw also needed prayers for her health as does our Donna Bush and Susan Chad who are struggling with depression.
Georgie had a stroke and is recovering so prayers for a clean bill of health would be grand for her too.
The Morris family needs prayers as they struggle with dealing with Angela in CAS care.
Prayers needed for one of our members as she fights to get her badly abused grandson out of the system and Alberta and returned to her in Ontario. Details on the baby’s abuser here: and

Member Profile: Lynda and Wayne Palmer by Sarah Evans
Lynda and Wayne Palmer began caring for their grandsons five years ago. They stepped in to take care of Ryan and Gavin when their parents were deemed unable to look after them due to addictions and instability. After several court hearings and a court assessment, it was decided that Ryan would go to live with his mother and Gavin would stay with Lynda and Wayne, even though Children’s Aid said they would never separate the boys. It was difficult for Gavin that Ryan and their sister (another child their mother had) lived with their mother while he did not.
Initially, it was difficult for the Palmers to deal with Children’s Aid in getting counselling for the boys, who were both bedwetting and having nightmares. The Palmers say another challenge was the conflict – and sometimes verbal abuse – when the boys’ parents didn’t get their way or there was confrontation regarding visits.
“It is difficult being the persons who have to monitor and report back to CAS parental concerns when it is your child or daughter-in-law,“ they said. “It automatically sets up a situation (for conflict) and the children are caught in between. Their loyalties are always in turmoil. “
Another obstacle was Gavin’s anger when Ryan went back to their mother. He was told that his grandparents took him when his parents really wanted him, which is “absolutely untrue. “
One thing that helps the Palmers cope is their faith and church family.
“They really stepped in at the beginning and helped us get through,“ they said.
They enjoy the opportunity to bring the boys to church and instil Christian teachings and values in them. The boys have attended Christian camps. Gavin likes hockey, and he is currently attending a Christian hockey camp hosted by former and current NHL players.
Gavin also sees an art therapist who the Palmers met at a CANGRANDS conference.
The Palmers encourage other grandparents to see their situation as a gift (although there were times when they didn’t see it this way themselves) and to seize the opportunity to be a positive influence on their grandchildren.

Summer Camp
FREE Summer Camp for teens 13-17! Camper applications and camper referrals for Camp Outlook now!
Wings & Wheels Festival
Toronto’s largest display of vintage, classic and modern aircraft and vehicles. Lots of family-friendly activities, airplane rides and more. Reduced family rates available. Kids 5 and under are FREE.
Living with FASD DVD
We turned our living with FASD comic book into an animatic on DVD. You can preview one of the five stories at It’s called Enough Silence. The DVD, which contains all five stories from the comic book, may be ordered by sending an email with your billing address to
The DVDs cost $15 each and include shipping in Canada.
Ontario Introduces New Photo ID Card
Find out more about the Ontario Photo Card
McGuinty Government Making Life Easier For Ontario Families
Ontario is introducing a new photo identification card that will make it easier for people who do not have a driver’s licence to travel, open a bank account and perform any other activities that require official ID.
The new, secure card will be recognized as government-issued identification for Ontarians 16 and over who do not drive.
Ontarians will be able to apply for the photo card at about 20 selected ServiceOntario centres across the province by the end of July, and at all 300 locations by 2012. Ontarians with disabilities, seniors and other advocacy groups provided input on the design and availability of the card.
Through the Open Ontario plan, the government continues to help make it easier for families to access government services, while creating jobs and economic opportunities in Ontario.
* The photo card will cost $35 and is valid for five years.
* Approximately 1.5 million Ontarians aged 16 years and over do not have a valid driver’s licence.
* Ontario joins eight other provinces that offer a government-issued photo ID card.
The Ontario photo card mirrors the same security features as the driver’s licence to help prevent fraud and identity theft.

Study Participants Wanted
The York University Bebko Lab is currently looking for participants for a fun study examining how children with an intellectual disability, Asperger’s or another autism spectrum disorder, and typically developing children integrate what they hear with what they see and how they make sense of this information.
About our Research Study
Our research team is very interested in how children link together what they see and what they hear. For example, when watching a movie you are putting together the words you hear with the mouth movements you see. Sometimes if the movie has been badly dubbed it may be difficult to understand what is being said. We are interested in exactly this issue, how children integrate visual and auditory information, and in particular, how children with intellectual delays or autism make sense of this information. We feel that the results will help us better understand speech and language issues these groups may have.
We are looking for children with an intellectual disability and/or children with an autism spectrum disorder, children with Asperger Syndrome, and typically developing children aged 3 to 12. If you are interested in participating, we will coordinate with you to set up a time and place to complete the study that is most convenient for you. You can either come to our lab here at York (we will gladly cover all parking and transportation costs) or we could go to you at your home. The study involves a few parent questionnaires, an assessment of the child’s current functioning level, and having your child view some interesting videos on a computer for about 10-20 minutes. All together, we expect this to take no more than 1 hour and a half.

How well children with an intellectual disability, Asperger’s, or autism combine information from different senses is currently not well understood. Our intent is that a better understanding of the integration of the sights and sounds involved in speech could lead to more targeted and better developed therapeutic interventions. The families and organizations involved will be offered a brief summary of the results of the study and a $10 gift card to Chapters. The families may also receive a brief summary of the assessment results for their child at no charge, depending on which measures are used.
How Can You Participate?
If you would like to participate in this study please contact Stephanie Brown by calling 416-736-2100 ext.20706 or e-mail
Online Recruitment Posting
The Missed and Dismissed Diagnosis: Experiences of People Diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) Beyond Childhood
We are looking for volunteers to take part in a study about the experiences of people diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) as adults.
Purpose of the Study
You are invited to take part in this study on people’s experiences of being diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) as adults. I am hoping to learn what it is like for people who are diagnosed with ADD as adults; including their life experiences, what it is like for them living with ADD and their opinions of the impact of not knowing they had ADD while growing up, if any. The purpose of this research is to inform helping professions, and specifically the social work profession about the implications on life experiences associated with not receiving a diagnosis of ADD during childhood and the realities of living with ADD. As part of the Master of Social Work program at McMaster University, I am doing this research for my thesis.
What will I have to do?
You would be asked to take part in a one-on-one audio taped interview. The interview will take approximately an hour to an hour and a half. The interview would be scheduled for a mutually convenient date and time and in a mutually agreed upon quiet and comfortable location.
Your participation in this study would be confidential. Your name or any information that would allow you to be identified would not be used. This study has been reviewed by, and received ethics clearance through, McMaster Research Ethics Board. For more information about this study, or to volunteer for this study, please contact: Lynn Wardell
Masters Candidate in Social Work
School of Social Work McMaster University Hamilton, Ontario
519-771-5823 or by Email:

On-line Study (Diagnostic History)

Ability Online partners with Camp Winston
Camp Winston has recently partnered with Ability Online Support Network to provide the Parent Resource Network. For more information, visit:
Awareness Test Video

Laughter is the Best Medicine pulled together by Sarah Evans
Laughter is important and beneficial in a number of ways. It can reduce stress by helping you keep a positive attitude and giving you fresh perspective. It can also ease fear and anxiety. In addition to increasing joy, laughter helps you to focus and keep yourself grounded.
By helping you to relax, it can boost your energy and protect you from the harmful effects of stress. Physically, it can relax your muscles for up to 45 minutes.
Laughter has social benefits as well. It brings people together and promotes bonding. It’s also very contagious! Once you start to giggle, others will be quick to join you!
There are many opportunities to start laughing. You can watch a funny movie or television show, find and tell funny jokes and stories, be silly with your grandchildren and surround yourself with things that will make you laugh or remind you to laugh.
For more information, visit:

Humour and Quotes
When my grandson Billy and I entered our vacation cabin, we kept the lights off until we were inside to keep from attracting pesky insects. Still, a few fireflies followed us in. Noticing them before I did, Billy whispered, “It’s no use Grandpa. Now the mosquitoes are coming after us with flashlights. ”

I didn’t know if my granddaughter had learned her colors yet, so I decided to test her. I would point out something and ask what color it was. She would tell me and was always correct. It was fun for me, so I continued. At last, she headed for the door, saying, “Grandma, I think you should try to figure out some of these colors yourself!”
A grandmother was telling her little granddaughter what her own childhood was like: “We used to skate outside on a pond I had a swing made from a tire; it hung from a tree in our front yard. We rode our pony. We picked wild raspberries in the woods.” The little girl was wide-eyed, taking this all in. At last she said, “I sure wish I’d gotten to know you sooner!”
What a bargain grandchildren are! I give them my loose change, and they give me a million dollars’ worth of pleasure. ~Gene Perret
What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies. ~Rudolph Giuliani
Grandmas hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever. ~Author Unknown
ACTIVITY: Grandmothers around the World
There are many ways to say some of our favourite words: Grandma. See if you can guess which language the words below are in.
1. Oma (“Oh-mah”)
2. abuela (“avuèla”)
3. Ama (“Ah-mah”)
4. ??????? (bA-bush-ka)
5. Nainai
1. German
2. Spanish
3. Chinese
4. Russian
5. Mandarin

Free and Fun Things to do with your Grandchildren this Summer

• Go to the park for a picnic
• Read a good book together
• Tell stories of what your life as a child was like
• Go to the library together
• Bake yummy treats
• Find free places to go in your community
• Make some homemade greeting cards
• Do a puzzle/play a game
• Play with a pet (find one if you don’t own one)
• Do something nice for a friend or a charity

IMPORTANT NOTE ABOUT MEMBERSHIP – Membership was due in April and sadly very few paid. Presently CANGRANDS is operating in the red and OWES me about $8000.00.
That said I can no longer run CANGRANDS like this. The fee of $25.00 per year is really quite low – less than SEVEN cents per day or $2.08 a month (a cup of coffee!). Please consider all I do for the lists plus the advocating for kinship and denied issues that I do for YOU! The fees help cover less than 1% of the costs, actually it barely covers the long distance calls I return to folks. I run all over this province speaking to the powers to be and educating others on OUR issues. Your actions and lack of membership fees will decide whether you have or need a kinship and/or denied access voice as I cannot continue paying out on my own. I have already stopped accepting invitations to talk, and have said no to sit on committees where our issues are being presented, etc. If YOU want CANGRANDS to be a voice on your behalf then vote with your cheque books! Your support is needed and appreciated.
If you have any ideas or come across information you wish to share then send it to Sarah for the next newsletter. Sarah would also like to do more Grand profiles so if you are willing to share your story with us then connect with Sarah at: