Archive for January, 2010

A Grandparents’ Rights seminar

Approximately three months ago Brian Jacques – a retired Canadian Auto Workers union local 127 worker experienced the heartbreak of being denied access to his grandchildren. Brian located CANGRANDS and has been working with us as well as with a group called Not All Dads Are Deadbeats to find out what changes need to happen for the province to allow grandparents’ rights.

A Grandparents’ Rights seminar was hosted by the CAW in Chatham Ontario on January 27 which saw approximately 75 folks attend. Many of the crowd were heartbroken denied access grandparents while others were kinship care giving families plus the brothers and sisters of the Union 127 show up with their support. By the end of the evening it was clear that there is a real need for increased rights for Grandparents with regard to access and involvement with their grandchildren. Far too often Grandparents face difficulties when seeking access to their own family member and often need support as well as some practical solutions to help overcome these hurdles. The event also promoted Bill 33 which is an amendment to the Children’s Law Reform Act that recognizes the role of Grandparents and their right to proper access of Grandchildren. Our plea is to get a fourth bill presented and for this one to actually past its third and final reading instead of being tabled as the pass bills have been. Guest speakers included: CAW Local 127 President Aaron Neaves, Mike McGilvery – Employee Assistance Representative, as well as Brian Jacues – talked of his experience and heartbreak of being denied access to his grandchildren. Dave Flook of the Not All Dads are Deadbeats http://www.notalldadsaredeadbeats.com also gave many stats as well as his story of trying to be an involved father in his daughters life. You can watch this seminar at his website: http://www.notalldadsaredeadbeats.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=section&layout=blog&id=18&Itemid=168 Betty Cornelius – Founder of CANGRANDS NATIONAL KINSHIP www.cangrands.com ended the evening with a variety of tales of the heartache of several denied families she knows and the struggle of 10 year and trying to get a Grandparent Bill passed. Betty touched on the conference and camp which CANGRANDS host each year as well as talked briefly on the stories related to patches from the CANGRANDS Hearts N Hands Quilt which can be seen at: http://www.cangrands.com/quilt.htm In all the evening was a GRAND success and we look forward to working with the local 127 CAW to strenghten our battle that will one day give children the right to their extended families. Betty Cornelius CANGRANDS NATIONAL KINSHIP RR# 1 Mc Arthurs Mills, Ontario, K0L2M0 613-474-0035 www.cangrands.com

Grandparents rights Seminar

Much has been written on PAS (parent alienation syndrome). Sadly there have been no studies on GAS (Grandparent alienation syndrome) yet we know there are thousands of grandparents effected and suffering in silence.

Approximately three months ago Brian Jacues – a retired Canadian Auto Workers union local 127l worker experienced the heartbreak of being denied access to his grandchildren.

Brian located CANGRANDS and has been working with myself as well a group called Not All Dads Are Deadbeats to bring you a free public seminar on the topic of Grandparents rights. This unique event will take place on January 27th 2010 at the CAW hall in Chatham Ontario at 7 p.m.

GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS

on Jan. 27th 2010
at the Canadian Auto Workers hall at 280 Merritt Ave. Chatham, Ontario
at 7 pm – 9 pm

COST: FREE

Featured speakers will be:

Brian Jacues – New to the experienced the heartbreak of being denied access to his grandchildren.

Betty Cornelius – Founder of CANGRANDS NATIONAL KINSHIP ww.cangrands.com
Dave Flook – President of Not All Dads Are Deadbeats http://www.notalldadsaredeadbeats.com/

Kim Craitor has been invited (not confirmed)

Join us to discuss the need for increased rights for Grandparents with regards to access and involvment with their Grandchildren. Far too often Grandparents face difficulties when seeking access to their own family members. During this event we will be outlining these issues and will be providing support and
practical solutions to help overcome these hurdles.

We also be promoting Bill 33 which is an amendment to the Children’s Law Reform Act that recognizes the role of Grandparents and their right to proper access of Grandchildren.

Everyone is welcome to attend and please pass this onto others as well.

For more information contact:

Betty Cornelius Founder of CANGRANDS NATIONAL KINSHIP www.cangrands.com
RR# 1 Mc Arthurs Mills, Ontario, K0L2M0 613-474-0035
or

Dave Flook President of Not All Dads Are
info@notalldadsaredeadbeats.com 519- 380 – 0635

GRANDPARENTS are being GASed! Grandparent Alienation Syndrome

Betty Cornelius
CANGRANDS NATIONAL KINSHIP
RR# 1 Mc Arthurs Mills, Ontario, K0L2M0
613-474-0035
www.cangrands.com

Many fathers and a few mothers know all about Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) – The term parental alienation syndrome (PAS), first described by Richard Gardner, is also sometimes referred to as “brainwashing.”(1) Its concept and dynamics include a complex network of involvement and motives on the part of all members acting in this family drama.

However few folks put together that grandparents are heartbroken and sick with grief over not being ‘allowed’ to see their grandchild(ren) too. …these grandparents are being GASED!

Any and all attempts at alienating any children from the extended family who love then should be seen as a direct and willful violation of one of the prime duties of parenthood.
  
Children alienated from a grandparent not only suffer the loss or impairment of that relationship, but also tend to suffer the loss or impairment of all family relationships on that parent’s side. This means grandparent/grandchild relationships are also negatively impacted. Government policies in many locations fail to recognize the importance of preserving these relationships and often wrongly help alienating parents cut some or all of their children’s grandparents out of their lives, usually to the children’s detriment.
 
Points  For Grandparents’ Rights

Advocates of grandparents’ rights take positions including the following:

  • Grandparents may provide a stabilizing role in their grandchildren’s lives, particularly after a divorce or crisis (such as the death of a parent).
  • Where grandparents have been involved in a child’s life, it can be traumatic to the child to suddenly be denied access.
  • The mere fact that parents are divorced, or the grandparents’ child dies or is incarcerated, should not automatically serve to grant the custodial parent the right to sever a positive relationship between the grandparents and their grandchildren.
  • Grandparents are the main link to history and traditions who can be passed on the child and richly add self worth to the child`s life.

My story ; http://missinggrandchildren.00family.com/kaylee.html

For over 17 years I have been denied access to my first grandchild and miss her daily despite never being ‘allowed’ to see her. I am praying that this April when she turned 18 Kayleigh will look me up and learn that she is dearly loved.

Betty Cornelius